At these times, drugs such as marijuana, painkillers, alcohol, and opiate-based drugs can seem to be effective in reducing emotional pain. However, there are several reasons that using drugs for numbing the pain that you feel is a risky and potentially dangerous idea. Drugs that numb emotional pain (as well as physical pain) tend to be addictive. You may develop a physical dependence on them. Many drugs that people use to numb the pain have unpleasant withdrawal effects as well. After using the drug consistently, you may even experience anxiety and depression as a result of withdrawal. In fact, learning how to deal with your true feelings, no matter how unpleasant they seem, is a key component of overcoming addiction. Take shame, for example. If you feel bad about something you did or didn’t do, and then you get drunk to suppress those feelings of shame, there is a good chance you will feel more shame for something embarrassing or ill-judged that you did while you were under the influence of alcohol, doubling the shame you feel the next day. In contrast, facing up to your embarrassment, and resolving to understand what you did and why you did it, will help you develop more compassion for yourself, so you beat yourself up less. It will also make it less likely that you will make the same mistake again—especially if your judgment is not impaired by drugs, so your embarrassment will probably decrease over time. People can go for years cycling through the vicious cycle of pain, shame, disappointment, and more pain, before finally realizing the effect will always wear off, and you will be left with the feelings underneath. Some people never discover this. There are many strategies that you can use for doing this on your own, including:
Join a mindfulness, yoga, or meditation class, at your local community college or through meditation and yoga groups. Read self-help books. If you can’t afford or don’t want to see a therapist, go to the library or bookstore and find a book to help guide you. Books on mindfulness work for any kind of emotional pain. Two good examples: “Managing Pain Before it Manages You” by M. Caudill, and “Pain Relief Without Drugs: A Self-Help Guide for Chronic Pain and Trauma” by J. Sadler. See a therapist or counselor, who can help you uncover and deal with the emotions underlying your addiction.
Sometimes emotional and physical pain is caused by a related condition, such as depression or an anxiety disorder. A number of physical conditions can also cause emotional symptoms, such as low mood, fatigue, and irritability, which can mirror those of depression. These symptoms can be effectively treated with therapy and/or medications if properly identified. Antidepressant medications are not usually addictive, although anti-anxiety medications can be, and all should only be taken as and when prescribed. Talk to a doctor if you don’t feel you can manage your emotions effectively on your own, and they will be able to advise you about whether another kind of medication is right for you. This is much safer and more effective than self-medicating with drugs. For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.
