Find out how to cope with your friend moving away.
The Importance of Friendship
Nowadays, you might feel pressured by social media to have hundreds of friends. But one or two friendships can be greatly meaningful. Even one friendship can impact your life. The study looked at both adolescent girls and boys. While boys in socio-economically vulnerable environments faced pressure to be macho, these intimate friendships were especially helpful in building their resilience.
Friendship Reduces Stress Levels
Friendship also reduces your stress levels. In a recent study,scientists looked at communication and stress levels in the communication of younger and older women. After observing study participants wind through a number of conversational challenges with both friends and strangers, researchers discovered reduced levels of cortisol, the stress hormone, when friends communicated together.
How to Cope With Your Friend Leaving
Friends have a deep connection and enjoy getting together and sharing experiences. During normal circumstances, friends might grow apart or one changes and thus the friendship ends. Sometimes friendships end due to a fight or conflict. In this situation, you may feel like you have no control over the circumstance. You may view the situation as simply: you lost a friend.
Accept Your Feelings
It’s normal to feel sad or abandoned, especially if you were close to your friend. You might be bereaved. You’re experiencing a major loss and it’s OK to acknowledge that. You might worry about the future of your friendship. Recently, a small studyexplored the relationship between grief and best friends among adolescent Danish girls.
Celebrate the Positives
Though you’re down, you might focus on the positive aspects of this move. Even though your friend will now be miles away, due to their father’s promotion or an opportunity for their mother, here are some ways to stay focused on the positives of the move:
Have a going away party Buy your friend a bon voyage gift Create a box of shared mementos Make an e-book about all the cool things your friend can do in the new locale Put together a book with pictures of the fun times you both shared Write your friend a letter about how much you care for them
After Your Friend Moves
Managing your feelings during your friend’s absence can be challenging. It’s not uncommon to feel anxiety. If your friend relocated for good reasons to a great place, you may feel jealous. Or you may feel guilty for wanting them to stay. All these feelings are OK to cycle through. If you miss your friend a lot, too, there’s no reason to hide it. Admit it to yourself and also tell your friend.
How to Stay in Touch With Your Friend
It’s easy to stay in touch with your friend via text. Be sure to FaceTime or Zoom with them if you can’t visit. Communicating with your friend will not only sustain your relationship, but it will also reduce those negative feelings.
Reach Out Even If It Feels Awkward
If the conversation seems awkward at first due to time passing or the distance between you both, don’t quit. Begin with an inside joke that your friend will understand right away. Reference a shared memory. Listen to your friend’s news about her new living space and neighborhood, and respond with empathy and interest.
Reflect on Your Feelings
A good way of getting your feelings out is journaling. Journaling can help you manage your negative feelings, too. Take time to process this big change in your life. You may no longer run with your friend every Saturday morning. Or you can’t shoot hoops anymore. It’s OK to realize you’re hurting or a bit lonely without them.
Take Care of Yourself
Find self-compassion now and be kind to yourself as you navigate this new normal. Eat well, get enough sleep, keep exercising and be sure to rest. Allow yourself the time to get through this. Know that you’re not alone in feeling the way you do and remind yourself that you can cope with a friend moving away.
A Word From Verywell
During trying times, turn to your family and your other friends for the support and affection you deserve. It’s not farfetched to feel like you just need a hug right now either. It’s understandable why you might not be ready to make new friends just yet, but you will be in time. And seek out the help of a licensed therapist if you need further guidance on dealing with this issue.
