Having sex in any position that maximizes both your pleasures is a great way to use sex as a stress reliever. With that said, here are some sex positions that can help reduce your stress.
Missionary
Good ol’ missionary is excellent for reducing stress because it’s a position most people are familiar with and comfortable with. When you are at your most relaxed, you are more likely to enjoy sex. And when you are enjoying sex, you are more likely to have an orgasm, which releases hormones that can help with stress.
Standing Up
Standing during sex might seem uncomfortable in theory, but can be an excellent position for stress relief. This is because you are likely to work up a sweat in this position, which is great to reduce stress. It might take a couple of tries for you and your partner to find a position that works for you, but it’s worth it.
Doggy-style
The person on the receiving end of penetration during doggy-style might experience stress relief as a result of relinquishing control during sex. One cause of stress is being overwhelmed with life and feeling like you are juggling too many things at once. Not having to think too much about who’s in control can ease some of that pressure during sex.
Spooning
Spooning is one of the most intimate positions you could find yourself in during sex. When spooning, you’ll be held as close to your partner as possible. Just doing this, even without penetrative sex, can feel very relaxing and comforting. Spooning is also a relatively low-effort position that many people can easily do.
Coital Alignment
This is a variation of the missionary position. With coital alignment, however, the person being penetrated keeps their legs only slightly apart. If either partner has a clitoris, this position provides great access to the clitoris for additional stimulation.
Flat Doggy
This variation of the doggy-style position has you lying on your front instead of being on all fours. Some people find this a little more comfortable than the doggy-style position. You also have the added benefit of having more skin-to-skin contact with your partner. It can be a very intimate and sensual position which increases its potential for stress relief.
Yab-Yum
The Yab-Yum is a popular tantric style sex position. This position allows for partners to have intimate access to each other’s sensual spots. With the Yab-Yum, you sit facing your partner and wrap your legs around their lower back. This allows them to thrust upwards into you while maintaining eye contact, which increases intimacy. An essential component of Yab-Yum, as is with tantric sex positions, is to slow things down and enjoy each stroke while staring into your partner’s eyes.
Get On Top
In the same way, relinquishing control with doggy-style or flat doggy-style could help ease your stress; taking control of your pleasure could have the same. This is especially so if you’ve been feeling a little like you don’t have a lot of control over other aspects of your life. Being on top helps you to control the pace and when and how your orgasm occurs. Not to mention that it could also help you work up a sweat, and it’s common knowledge that exercise is a great way to reduce stress.
A Word From Verywell
Although stress can help reduce sex, it’s important to look into other stress management techniques as stress could inevitably affect your sex drive because high levels of daily stress could reduce the frequency of sexual activity and decrease sexual satisfaction.
Start by ensuring foreplay is sufficientMake sure you are both aroused Ensure that all parties have given consent Set the mood (you can light candles or play music)
However, if you are not in the mood for sex or are too stressed even to enjoy sex, it may be time to look into eliminating stressors from your life. If you need additional support or want to learn other ways sex can help relieve your stress, reach out to a sex therapist.
